Howdy, we’re IPs and our surrogate is pregnant with twins (Malcolm and Justin). We’d like to celebrate a baby shower but don’t know if it’s appropriate considering that it’s a surrogate pregnancy, what do you think? Are you in favor of inviting the surrogate? What’s your experience? Thanks for the support!04/12/2018 at 14:38
Actually, this decision is totally up to you! It depends on the kind of relationship that you have built with your surrogate throughout the pregnancy. We’ve heard about stories of IPs whose surrogate was invited, and other cases in which the carrier was not there. I guess it’s only normal that in cases where the IPs barely know their surrogate invite her to their baby shower. It may also depend on the community where they live.
In short, you should feel comfortable with your decision, and most importantly talk to your surrogate to see how she feels or what she thinks. Maybe you want her to be there for, but she’s uncomfortable with it. You should be honest with her, and the same the other way around.
I hope this helps,
Best regards04/13/2018 at 08:47